Vol. 2: Issue 2 | Gawdess Regime

WHO IS THE REAL SICK ONE HERE?

CASSIE VENTURA

She is not a victim. In my opinion she is a nasty, gullible, once drug-addicted, but still very much jealously vindictive opportunist. She did not get the return on the investment that she felt she deserved. Diddy did not marry her. He did not procreate with her. That is what she wanted and was willing to do any - and everything for. It did not work out like she hoped so she had to contemplate ways in which she could stick it to Diddy. She wanted him to know that she was hurt, brokenhearted, and felt utterly used. Because it did not go the way she planned she was forced to settle for what she deemed as less than, putting her in a position that she does not want to be —common. Without Diddy, Cassie is back to being the ordinary and lacklustre young woman she was before the fame. She forgot what that life entailed and how bored she would be with it due to the lavish lifestyle Diddy provided and exposed her to. The downgrade was overwhelming and the only way to make sense of why and how she regressed is to portray and present herself as a victim. But a true victim she is not. The cause of her pain and suffering, and what really underscores her victimhood, is her no longer being a very important person in Diddy’s life. Cassie developed, if one did not exist before, or superiority complex similar to the narcissistic personality that Diddy is accused of having. She became superfluous and arrogant in thinking that she was somebody that she is actually not. Her grief is premised on her new found reality that there will be no more red carpets, flashing lights, photo shoots, five star hotel accommodations, all-inclusive trips, designer shopping sprees, and being among the rich and famous as she had grown accustomed to and obsessed with. Cassie is less a victim and more of what is termed a disgruntled employee who got a stark reminder that she is no star at all —especially without Diddy. Not being or becoming a superstar is what hurts her the most. That is the identity that she wanted to embody, but has no leg to stand on. She needed and has been using Diddy as a boost and stepping stone the whole time. Diddy was more of a meal ticket to Cassie than the love of her life that she so desperately wants people to believe. It is fair to say that they used each other for various outcomes instead of pinning all blame on Diddy. She wanted to be used just as much as she was doing the using as a means to an end. She is not hurt by the physical assaults or domestic abuse. That can be regarded as isolated incidents that she obviously looked over in exchange for the lifestyle that was bigger than the abuse. She is hurt and angry because she was sold a dream and now feels that the dream was first deferred and eventually stolen from her. Moreover, that dream was now available to be realized by other prospects and paramours.

The underpinning of Cassie’s jealousy and envy needs to be highlighted for it has had an adverse effect in this case. If she could not be that which she hoped to be then it must be the fault of someone or something else outside of herself. And that thing must suffer because she is suffering in silence. Why else would a woman who claims to have moved on with a marriage to another man, and has chartered into motherhood go on the stand to degrade herself, disrespect her husband, and expose her children to this degree of shame in the future if not for the willingness to do all that is within her power to pour out vengeful wrath onto Diddy? If there was indeed a settlement given to compensate her for the pain and suffering she experienced in the relationship (something that most victims never get and will never receive), why is taking it to the court of public opinion and to a criminal trial relevant in substantiating her claims of abuse? It is because it is not so much about the abuse or about the money. It’s about punishment. It is about sabotage. It is about revenge. It is hatred and malicious intent on full display. True victims do not act this way. A true victim does not want to be a villain in any way, shape, or form. So it behooves me to ask: “Who is the real sick one here?” Is it just Diddy?

Cassie exclaimed that she wanted to write a book about her experiences with Diddy. She did not need his permission to write or publish a book. But Cassie still wants the attention from Diddy —and of course, financial support. Her husband does not measure up. She knows this very well. And now the world knows it too. She has strategically maneuvered in a way that made Diddy her sugar daddy again, that is, a benefactor, without having to do the dirty work that she was doing prior to getting married. Cassie never loved Diddy at all. This fact must be made clear.

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Cassie is not afraid of Diddy. In a sinister way it would please Cassie to see Diddy locked up and locked away —not to save her from reprisal or physical threats to her life. But to save her from having to witness him parade around town with other women knowing his level of generosity and proclivity to floss and flaunt a lifestyle that she no longer has access to. If Diddy was not going to be with her then he should not be with anyone. This is the mindset of a sick person who refuses to do the work necessary to heal. Cassie has not mentally moved on even though she wants to convince the public that she has. The failure to hold herself accountable in her own victimization suggests a disconnect from reality, and an insistence on being delusional. Further, the optics of Diddy parlaying and gallivanting around town with other women such as Young Miami added more insult to her presumed injury. This is an important factor that must not be ignored or glossed over as irrelevant. It’s not just another woman that is taking her proverbial place—but it is a Black woman. There is an innate and unspoken hatred towards Black women who are put on pedestals and modelled as the “it girl”. Whether she admits this or not, she is jealous of that particular fact. The passing of Kim Porter reignited hope that perhaps Diddy would now see her fully, and not have any excuse as to why he could not marry her. Cassie wanted to be the “one” holding the highest rank even if it meant that she was not exclusively the only one. Kim Porter, the beautiful Black woman and mother to most of his children, was in the way posing as the placeholder for that top position, and presenting herself as an arch nemesis to Cassie. Cassie knows that she can’t compete or compare with Kim Porter on any day of the week, month or year. Diabolically speaking, Cassie was probably the happiest person on the planet to see Kim Porter removed from the land of the living. Cassie, I posit, felt a sting each time she saw Diddy with Young Miami. It was a sore reminder of the inherent power that Black women hold. And the illusion that they both appeared happy together in public made her sour and reminded her of how things were when Kim Porter was alive. Young Miami triggered a vexation in spirit that made Cassie bitter and restless. It prompted her to start scheming in iniquitous ways to get back at Diddy for her demotion. After all, she put in all that work in being a doormat and a toilet just to be discarded and regarded as insignificant, and subsequently replaced by a Black woman. Cassie wants to be a trophy wife to someone of high stature. She thought she earned the spot. It is undeniable and ubiquitous that Diddy’s heart was not with her and probably never was. This is the truth that is eating away at Cassie. She was never the “one”. She wanted to be the “official girl” but now has to digest the bitter truth that she is nothing special.

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Diddy is guilty of being a dream killer. But killing a dream is not a crime punishable by law. Diddy is a heartbreaker. Breaking someone’s heart is not a punishable crime in the court of law. Hurting someone’s feelings is not a crime either. Moving on with life without a person who thought the relationship was forever is not a crime. Cheating with another person outside the sanctity of a marriage is not a crime. Inviting others into the bedroom with the consent of all parties who are of legal age is not a crime. Taking drugs is not a crime. Having kinks and fetishes that are performed in closed and designated places is not a crime. All the things that Cassie is accusing Diddy of is contemptible and even reprehensible, but not criminal. It is shameful, yes, but still not criminal. And if Diddy is to be shamefully humiliated for all of the above then Cassie is subject to the same shame because Diddy did not act alone. Cassie is a part of the atrocity as well. She brought this evil on herself. She wanted to dance with the devil and even picked the songs from the jukebox herself. Cassie is not exempt from this wickedness. And her admissions prove culpability in criminality if a crime was actually committed in this case. How and why she received immunity in addition to compensation is baffling, and speaks volumes about the lack of integrity in the legal system. So I ask: “Who is the real sick one here?” We should not trauma bond with Cassie or review the case with rose-coloured glasses. I understand how the cycle of abuse works. I understand that there is a degree of grooming involved that those who are vulnerable and gullible are more prone to falling into victimhood. This should not, however, absolve participants from the eventual awareness and distinction of what is right and wrong, and responsibility for eventually doing what is right. The infantilization of Cassie is a travesty in itself. It begs me to question if Diddy were to tell her to harm a child, commit murder, or to jump off a cliff that she would not be reasonably assertive in declining the request. Where do we draw the line between a victim and those who refuse to use their free will and agency to make better decisions? Eventually the onus is on the individual to strive for the highest good that they are capable of —even if it means relinquishing certain things in effort to find and obtain peace.

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There are many aspects to this case that must be addressed even though some people may feel a general or personal sense of uneasiness. We cannot gloss over the other motivating factors that underscore the lawsuit and subsequent trial. Cassie’s immaturity and lack of accountability is problematic, and creates much room for critique that can be taken in stride and assessed through open examination. Whether Cassie was encouraged to do this by enemies of Diddy, or if her husband put a battery in her back, she opened up a can of worms that makes her look like a filthy snake. In her attempts to make Diddy look like the most heinous, horrible, and nefarious creature on the planet she earned the spotlight that she has always craved. She is now seen as being just as reprehensible and loathsome as Diddy. In her digging of a pit for Diddy to fall into, she dug one much deeper for herself. There is no coming back from this self-inflicted staining of a character that is now deemed as despicable, detestable, and disgraceful. Cassie brought this on herself with the possible help of others who did not have her best interest in mind or at heart. She is the epitome of someone who sold their soul. She fell for the bait and now has to walk the walk of shame for years to come. “Who is the real sick one here?”

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